Invisible AbsMay 20, 2018
Before I got married, I found men with six-pack abs attractive. Physically, I preferred tall, lean, athletic guys –who would usually have toned abs. I never thought to analyze WHY.
Looking back, I believe its because an athletic build subconsciously meant that the guy was disciplined. If he could take care of his body, he could take good care of me and our relationship. Physical strength meant he could protect me, support me when I am weak.
Now that I think about it, it wasn’t JUST the six-pack abs themselves (because they look nice), but what I believed those muscles REPRESENTED.
During the time when Richard kept his distance and wasnt sure of me, some lean, athletic men asked me out. I didn’t see anything wrong with going out with them. Over time I’d see that these guys never took the bold step that I was looking for by that time –honesty, openness & true commitment.
I also had learned my lesson. I wanted to be with someone who REALLY wanted me, no matter what.
Eventually, I married a man without muscular abs. But coming from his 10th anniversary concert, surrounded by tall athletic dancers —no one was more attractive to me, than he.
Maybe because in 5 years of marriage he had shown discipline by weaning me off my love for unhealthy processed food. Because of Richard, we have fresh squeezed juice and home-cooked vegetables and fish as much as possible. He may not be skinny, but he does his best to keep his weight controlled despite our love for food.
He may not be able to lift 200 lbs, but I’ve seen him intelligently defend me to people who make inapproriate comments. His inner strength has centered me when I feel hopeless and praning.
With him I know I will never go hungry because he is always trying to improve his craft/work. Even if no one watches, he can’t stand not having a job well done. For him, there will always be something new to achieve.
Richard may not have the six-pack abs, but he definitely has what they represent. 🙂
I’m really happy for the ladies who are in a good relationship with guys who have perfect abs. You have a real catch there!
But as for me, I wouldn’t trade Richard’s “invisible” abs for all the six-packs in the world.
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