During our “undefined relationship” phase, Richard and I had a phone conversation about our past relationships. He spoke, unfiltered, about his “eventful” lovelife. His brutal honesty was surprising. He wanted me to know who he was, good and bad.
When it was my turn, I froze. It was easy to talk about the good, but the bad? I didn’t want him to judge me based on my past mistakes! I was too ashamed to be brutally honest.
So I filtered, sugar-coated and downplayed my “b...
This holiday season was full of parties. And I have a bad habit when it comes to some parties — “Expecting the worst” but claiming to hope for the best.
Last Dec 24, Richard was flying in late from his gig abroad. He asked me to go ahead to his family’s Christmas party. So that meant I would spend a few hours with his cousins, aunties, uncles and their families —without him.
A friend, also in a committed relationship, could relate to what I was feeling. Naiilang din sya...
When Richard and I have a fight, I need to keep myself balanced between two thoughts: 1.) Thinking - “I’m better than you” vs. 2.) “I’m not good enough.” Going too far either way is dangerous for any relationship.
Thinking “I’m better than you.”
No matter what the issue, between the two of us, I will always be the "nicer one." That's my natural strength. Richard, having a stronger personality, would usually say things with less gentleness and patience than me. Gentl...
My dad was so good in basketball. He played for the Mapua Cardinals in college and also for the Hongkong(Macau) National Basketball team👍
Even if I had decent basketball skills, I always felt sad being compared to my dad. No matter how hard I tried, he was always better in basketball than me
If you know how SPORTS can strain family relationships, then here is one of the best articles my good friend Coach Mic Que wrote entitled "Sports Parent".
Kilig, attraction, companionship, financial support —all are important. But in the long term (20, 30,50 years from now) what really matters is purpose.
Why did God put me in this world? I wasn’t placed in this world just to travel, eat chocolate, and be happy.
Richard does not give me purpose. My purpose is between me and God. But after 4 years of being married to Richard, I’m sure that supporting his leadership (as head of the family) is the best way for me to fulfill my own unique ...