Years ago, I had a boyfriend and our relationship was having problems. Then a common friend introduced me to Steve (not his real name) at a party. I enjoyed talking to Steve that night, relieved to be away from the problems I had with my boyfriend.
Days after, we exchanged some “harmless” messages: “Stuck in traffic! What u doing?”, “Hey I just passed by your school!” , “Know any good restos in QC?” , “Bored! ‘Musta???”
I didn’t want to admit it back...
2 weeks ago, I arranged a small dinner with a widow who lost her dear husband (50-years married)...
I was a little worried because I could hear her grief and tears over our previous phone conversations.
But during dinner she seemed to have recovered, and I wasted no time to ask her 3 curious questions.
1st question I asked her was if she had HURT or RESENTMENT about her husband's death (Usually people blame 3...) 🤔
they can blame the person who died (it ...
PERSPECTIVE is a way of looking at things. Sometimes the 1st step to fixing an issue is not to change the person, but to change our perspective.
Our common frustration—Richard wishes I would confront plainly, truthfully, immediately. I wish that he would be more gentle and patient. In the height of our emotions we think, “Why can’t he/she BE MORE LIKE ME?!”
I love Richard’s strength and truth, while he loves my gentleness. It’s my d...
I get asked this a lot—
And I used to answer: “if the two of you “click” when it comes to conversation.”
Today my no. 1 criteria is: If you like how he handles conflict and offense, then he’s the one. Nothing makes you experience the REALITY of the marriage vow more than a major conflict.
A friend of mine has been married for 8 years. Before marriage, my friend (the wife) noticed her boyfriend (the husband) didn’t like to talk about anything...